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Tuesday, December 9, 2014

TO BE FAITHFUL AND FEARLESS

By: Norberto Betita


Our eldest granddaughter KayAn Betita Palma was born on December 9, 2000, the same month when her stillborn elder sister was born on December 31, 1999. She’s kind of a replacement, but she’s not. She is a different child with a different identity. She was conceived of our eldest daughter Hazel under pressures of poverty, yet she was born a bouncing baby in a government hospital. Her infancy was spent under our nest and her childhood was filled with joy and gladness. She was the first born and the first grandchild and she’d got all the love and attention from us---the grandparents and her unmarried uncle and aunts. She was such a lovely little girl.

However, even from her infancy she was not without challenge. She got a lump that grows just below her neck which was later removed. At age three after a bath and while her mother was preparing for her clothes to wear, she jumped and jumped on the bed mattress until she stumbled and her forehead hit the concrete wall resulting to an unwanted injury. She was rushed to the hospital where several stitches have to be applied to close the cut.

She has grown with a dark straight hair and with very fair complexion. As a child she is always neatly dressed, especially when attending church. On her eighth birthday she was baptized and confirmed by her father. Her intellectual ability had been unveiled very early in her childhood. As she started school she had been a consistent honor student. She has the potential to academically excel, yet she has the weakness of being shy which at times hid her from the school limelight for extracurricular activities. In her primary class at church she is one good student of the Gospel. She was very excited when she was admitted into the Young Women Organization at twelve years old. Since then I have always noticed her reading the Book of Mormon and accomplishing her Personal Progress requirements in the church. Her talent in music was first observed when she took piano lessons during their stay in Cagayan de Oro City. From such a short training and even after she stopped practicing, she still has the ability to read the notes from the hymns. She can also play music on a lyre. Recently when we sing hymns for Christmas during our family home evenings she sang the alto extemporaneously following the hymnbook notes.

At age thirteen she felt her life was shattered by an overwhelmingly demoralizing event in her youthful life and that of her family. But she felt safe at the home where she was first nurtured and loved. Being the eldest she knew she has every reason to be true to the faith and fearless of future uncertainties. Her early challenges made her stronger to face the winds of adversities that had come and those that might come into her life. Once her family was given a short taste of affluence, yet at such a young age she understood that it was not doing them so much good. She seemed to understand early the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson that, "Money often costs so much."


Today, December 9, 2015 she turns 15, an ever beautiful and talented young woman. Once in childhood she asked her mother, “Why can’t daddy be with us at church every Sunday?” Now she perfectly knew the reason why and she has been adjusted from the painful events which made her third exodus together with her mother and siblings back into the home of her birth where she always felt safe, protected and loved. Her future is yet unknown but with faith and courage strong the prospects flashes with bright assurance of victory.

Her life story is just beginning and her mortal journey thus far left a record of few laps traversed. She understands that there are even more challenges and adversities yet to come. However, she knew that any defeats, crosses, frustrations and sorrows in this short time of mortality is nothing compared to the promised eternal life and glory in the Celestial mansions of God. This belief stands as the enduring foundation of her reason to be faithful and fearless of the future. She believes that if she remains faithful and true to her covenants, God will be at the helm of her voyage.

Lately she rested by my side and we talked about her plans for the future. She asked me questions about how long will it take to be a pediatrician and how much will it cost. When I told her that it would require a total of ten years, she was astounded. I also explained to her that it is such an expensive course option, but it can lead to a rewarding career. Yet I assured her that should she makes good in her studies there are government universities which offer much cheaper tuition and fees. Then we talked about other alternative courses and how each course may lead her toward better employment opportunities. She asked me about my academic journey. I related to her how difficult it was for me to earn a college degree in Banking and a Master in Business Administration. I apprised her of the accomplishments of her mother, aunts and uncle and how their plans change during their academic journey from high school through college. I told her that it was most important that they earned college degrees in preparation for their future battles with adversity. In the end she told me that may be she will have to pursue a course in accounting.

I am grateful for her willingness to express to me her future plans in life. I encouraged her to hold on to whatever dream she has for the future. As we parted and with a pat on the back I explained that her plans will become the link which will connect her present diligent efforts to excel in her studies to her future achievement and academic victory. I assured her that we as her grandparents, for as long as we are alive, will always be at her support. And should we not live long enough while she is on her journey, her uncle and aunts will sustain her through. Again I reminded her to be faithful and fearless.

Today, we express our deepest love and best wishes to our dearest firstborn granddaughter. HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY BIRTHDAY KAYAN. WE LOVE YOU VERY MUCH SINCE THEN AND FOREVERMORE. Your family.

Thursday, October 30, 2014

THE ECHOES OF ETERNITY: TO MY DEAREST LETTY ON HER 65th BIRTHDAY

By: Norberto G. Betita

The torrential rains of the season were pouring heavily overnight. The drenching showers generated thuds and thumps as it drop on the GI roofing and splashes down into the ground, creating penetrating echoes of splatters inside our room. The chilling breeze of dawn pricked into the unsealed splits of window jalousies and bathes our small room with coldness even intensified by the spinning fan. Of this I was awakened on the dawn of October 30, 2014, my beloved wife’s 65th birthday. I thought it not proper to disturb her deep sleep and instead just offered a prayer especially for her. As my petition and thanksgiving to God became even deeper and sincere, the unrestrained echoes of eternity flashed back before my mind and strike a chord in my heart as to set me in remembrance of that wonderful premortality I shared with the rest of the spirit children of Heavenly Father. I do have faith and conviction that I and Letty where in that premortal existence; “When the morning stars sang together, and all the sons of God shouted for joy? (Job 38:7)” while gathered in that grand council in Heaven preparatory to our earthly sojourn in accord with the eternal plan of happiness. Then I noticed she was awakened while I was still in my prayer to the Most High. Just after my personal communion with God, I greeted her warmly with kisses of tenderness and firm loving embrace until my emotions broke my eyes in tears. 

As I long since understood the reality of our premortality as sons and daughters of God with divine potential and destiny in plain manifestations revealed through prophets both of old and the present, I have come to better comprehend that the friendship that I and my dear Letty once have which eventually brought us into our marital relationship was just a friendly relationship resumed or restarted. We once lived with God before we come to earth. We were there as Spirit children of Heavenly Father. We were part of “the intelligences that were organized before the world was, and among…the noble and great ones” (Abraham 3:22). We were cared by a magnificent Heavenly Mother in the Family of God. We are literally brothers and sisters. That Heavenly Family was an epitome and prototype of our earthly families. While the memories of pre-earth life were taken from us as we cross the veil of forgetfulness, yet we can know that such relationships were perfect and eternal as to be our model. Therefore, we are bound by the same ideal to perpetuate our earthly family relationships towards perfection and exaltation to live with God forever and ever. 

Thus, having my visions beyond the wonders of eternity, I envisage that perhaps as Letty and I wandered around the spirit world of the pre-mortal existence, we planned together of what we are going to do once our time will come to journey into the earth. We wanted that we will meet again in mortality, that we will be born in a place that is near for us to meet. We planned that we will continue to be submissive and obedient to the will of the Father in mortality---our second state. We desired that we will be joined together in a marriage and that we will have sons and daughters whom the Father might entrust to us. We pledged to perform all the necessary ordinances that are required for us to attain exaltation. We agreed to endure the refining tests that we may have to go through according to the plan of eternal happiness; to prove worthy of the blessings of eternal life back into the presence of our Heavenly Parents. We know, however, that our plans will be quite impossible to attain considering that our premortal awareness and perfect knowledge will all be forgotten as we are required to pass through the veil of forgetfulness, and so live by faith and no longer by sight.

These echoes of eternity remain to be my continued incentive to be always true and loyal to my relationships with my wife and children. As I reflected and pondered this day while in loving embrace with my dearest Letty, I asked her, “What could have been my life without you?” “How should have I endured the mounting hills of challenges; the painful battles with afflictions; the valleys and mires of haunting difficulties and deprivations?” Her reply was simple and honest: “What I am to you is exactly what you are to me. I love you very much.” Indeed, our marriage of 40 years was a ‘growing from grace to grace’, a proving to do all things what the Lord our God shall command us (see Abraham 3:25). Our relationship is far from perfection, but we are striving towards such a lofty end with God at the helm. We endeavor and make every effort to increase in wisdom and faith while in mortality; enduring well is a daily goal. We have faith that as we follow God’s plan we will attain happiness not only in this life, but in the life to come.

Letty and I knew that no matter what, our journey will go on into eternity. If we are worthy we will be able to return to where we came from---the glorified life with Heavenly Father. Our eternal journey leads into an uphill route, and we discover that it becomes even more difficult as we near the summit. Yet the blessings of the Atonement give us the power to endure defeating obstacles along the way. 

As my dearest Letty celebrates her 65th birthday today in an atmosphere of simplicity and family solidarity, I do not tire telling her how much I loved her and how grateful am I to be a part of her life. My deepest appreciations of her abiding love and affectionate devotions to her maternal and spousal duty bestow upon me such an assurance of an enduring relationship into eternity. My everlasting gratitude for her unbounded love and untiring effort to raise and rear our children has always been the substance deep in the chamber of my heart. The introspections of the echoes of eternity make us aware that we are right into the plan of eternal happiness and our journey seemed to correspond and resemble primeval expectations. On this very day I wrote these thoughts especially for her:

“LETECIA”

Joy and gladness your name implies
Your inner beauty our hearts’ delight
That saintly charm ever clear in our eyes
Never at any time demeans eternal flight
A goddess of abundance you’re meant to rise
Yet adversity reflects a life in sight.

Eternity’s your journey’s end
The path you trudge to God destined
Your motherhood was foreordained
A sacred trust your children had been
To you on earth eternal souls assigned
To guide and nurture by God’s design.

For every deed you’ve ever done
The family’s welfare is paramount
Worldly treasures will soon be gone
While eternal riches ever will mount
The worth of children in priority borne
Forever family eternally bound.

In this your birthday I penned these lines
Expressions of gratitude of your duty divine
Of endless love my heart’s inclined
Ever in my soul profoundly unbroken
I love you my dearest even in words unspoken
From echoes of eternity to exaltation refine.

May the wonders and echoes of eternity ever fill the voids of our lives together as we continue to trek the ever demanding race of mortality. May God grant for us added courage and faith to sustain us in our journey to the blissful shores of eternity.



Tuesday, October 14, 2014

RULON ASHER: AN IMPOSSIBLE DREAM OF MY GRANDSON


Best Wishes for Rulon Asher on His 9th Birthday

by: Norberto Betita

When he was about five years old he started to learn about the value of prayer. After one of our family home evenings, the closing prayer was offered by our foster daughter Angelica. In her prayers were sincere petitions to bless each member of the family. He was busy playing something. We thought he was not listening. But after the prayer he complained why Angelica did not include in her prayer to ask Heavenly Father to heal him from coughs and colds that he was then suffering. From him we learned a lesson that even when little children seemed to be just snubbing or not paying attention to our spiritual family activities in the home, yet they are learning.

During our family prayers he would seek the assistance of his father to help him pray when it is his turn. Since then he has started to learn how to pray himself. 

RULON ASHER GARCIA BETITA, our beloved fourth grandson, is now celebrating his 8th birthday and is baptized by his father. His receiving the ordinance reminds me of the day, 26 years ago when I baptized his father. He told us he is very excited about receiving his ordinance of baptism. As a grandfather I am very proud of him to have such a desire at a young age for an ordinance that will give him entrance to the gates of the Celestial Kingdom. After baptism, he will be on his personal trek to his mortal journey into eternity. Of course he will be guided by his mortal parents along the way. While he is blessed with righteous parents, yet his life’s battles will be a personal one. He is now to exercise his moral agency to choose right from wrong. This is where he will start to grow and develop and progress towards his divine destiny. He is the only one that bears my name---BETITA amongst my grandchildren. And I’m confident he will bear that name with honor.

His name Rulon was described thus: “You are a law unto itself. Your tendency is to finish whatever you start. You are tolerant and like to help humanity. You are very active. You are generally warmhearted and gives freely of your time, energy, and sympathetic understanding. You have tolerance and acceptance of the frailties of others. Universal and humanitarian in outlook. This is very compassionate name. Emergencies may raise your intuitive abilities in order to resolve conflict or situation. You become very creative under the pressure, and have quite original ideas to make the best out of it.

“Position and social status is very important for you and you are always looking for way to improve your position in society. You have power and ability to choose your own destiny and achieve anything you want in life. You can expand in any direction according to your will and the set of values. You have passion for justice and belong to the position of authority. You have an inherent courage and endurance to accomplish "The Impossible Dream". With the power comes responsibility. You hold keys to the material world, but with this gift comes high spiritual responsibility to be fair and true to others. You are philosophical and mature, determined and intense with a desire to endure, often religious.” (http://www.sevenreflections.com/name/rulon/).

Asher on the other hand means happiness or blessed both in America and in Hebrew. It is well known that Asher is the son of Zilpah, Leah’s handmaid and of Jacob in the Old Testament and the ancestor of one of the twelve tribes of Israel (see Genesis 35:26).

These meanings and descriptions of his names seemed to correspond fittingly even in this his early life. His parents had very hard times getting him to eat good food, but his energy just seemed never exhausted. His generosity is well shown even in his childhood. He doesn’t fight nor retaliate even if stricken by other boys. He is tolerant of others faults. He is a very happy boy. He has that ever yearning desire to create something and to enjoy his boyhood. He is trained to do his assignments by his own and his parents’ role is just to check the accuracy of his work. At times his mother wanted to hire a tutor for him, but his father would rather want him to enjoy his free time after all he only has a short time as a kid to build happy memories with classmates and neighborhood friends. When asked to study for periodical examinations, he would just tell his parents, “Don’t you worry I have stock knowledge.” Such phrase became a mantra in the family circle. He is very much younger than most of his classmates in the third grade. He is not in the honor roll but as a grandfather I observed innate talents in him which I believe will be developed in proper time. 

At home and in church he is such a good boy. However, like all other children he has his own frailties. Too much energy and untiring mobility at times irritates his parents, yet he is ever willing to be corrected. When he knew he is wrong he accepts parental chastisement with tears in his eyes. When he felt reasonably right he confronts with his parents. I love Rulon Asher as much as I love all my grandchildren.

Many times in our conversations with him together with his grandmother he would tell us, and he has repeated it several times, that he wanted to be an engineer so that he could build a beautiful house, and buy a car or two of the latest model so that it will not be difficult for us to go to church. What an impossible dream for a child! Yet I believe it is attainable as he reaches maturity. When his father was about four years old, we had occasional rides in the car of our District President who is a doctor. Then back home he would tell me, “Pa, I would like to be a doctor so that I could buy a car.” Although his interests changed as he grows older, yet that simple childish dream of buying a car probably became his motivation to do better in his quest for learning and education as he reached adolescence. He could have attained his simple childhood dream earlier. However, as his life moved towards responsible maturity, priorities changed as he learned to “…seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness”. But I know that necessary goals for material things will come for the Lord has promised, “and all these things shall be added unto you (see Matthew 6:33).”

I write this personally for Rulon Asher as my life is now in its final stretch. My life might not be long enough to constantly remind him that not only do I believe in the expressive description that his name brings, but I have real faith in his ‘inherent courage and endurance to accomplish the impossible dream’, upon which ‘power comes responsibility’. I do have confidence and profound conviction that one day he will ‘hold keys to the material world’, from which ‘gift comes high spiritual responsibility to be fair and true to others’. When for me tomorrow no longer comes, I will have left no lasting memory for him than this simple reminder that as a child he dreamed an impossible dream and my best wishes as a grandfather together with his grandmother is for him to follow that vision for surely that childhood dream will connect him to the future and doors will eventually open for the physical attainment of his wishes and aspirations.

Wednesday, October 8, 2014

LEADERSHIP AND MANAGEMENT BY COMMON CONSENT

by: Norberto G. Betita



Throughout my study of business management in graduate school and in my trainings from management consultants together with my years of actual experience as a bank officer provided me with so much understanding of the structural hierarchy in different types of organizations. Among the leading organizational structures are labelled vertical and horizontal or flat. Both had the concept and idea of collective motivation for subordinates to help attain corporate goals and objectives. Around these types of organizational structures, allocations of roles and accountabilities are centered on the culture prevailing in the corporate pattern. The flow of responsibilities is determined by the kind of hierarchy that is present in the organizational format. Many believed that applicable structures are influenced and established according to the size of the organization. Vertical organizations are generally employed for larger corporate operations where the chain of management comes from the top ranking CEO connecting down the level of middle managers. While the horizontal or flat structure is best applicable for smaller groups wherein the managers handle the day-to-day tasks interacting with customers and front-line personnel. Both have their respective advantages and disadvantages.

In my long years of voluntary service in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints I have found an even better leadership and management structure that can be most effective not only as it is used in the church, but even in a corporate community. I termed it as Leadership and Management by Common Consent. “And all things shall be done by common consent in the church, by much prayer and faith, for all things you shall receive by faith…” (D & c 26:2) This management structure however is significantly different from that of the corporate viewpoint considering that its origin is more from an ecclesiastical voluntary organization where workers are generally unpaid. Its goals and purposes are divinely manifested and the ultimate objective is to save souls. Yet its operation is similar to that of a corporate organization where there are appointed leaders and subordinate managers of ecclesiastical units. The same interactions that are present in a corporate organization are also extant in the church.


Prospective leaders in the church are called from all walks of life. They do not even know that they are to be called anytime until they are interviewed for a position. They do not apply for any office in the church; neither do they aspire for any calling of authority. They are appointed and chosen by inspiration or revelation to the person who holds a key to preside. When one is assigned to a position of trust he is not required to submit a resume or to be questioned about his capabilities. All that would be asked of him are his personal worthiness and his willingness and desire to serve. They are informed that the call is from God and it is a beckon of divine stewardship. Elder Bruce R. McConkie explained that “administrative affairs of the Church are handled in accordance with the law of common consent. This law is that in God’s earthly kingdom, the King counsels what should be done, but then he allows his subjects to accept or reject his proposals. Unless the principle of free agency is operated in righteousness men do not progress to ultimate salvation in the heavenly kingdom hereafter. Accordingly, church officers are selected by the spirit of revelation in those appointed to choose them, but before the officers may serve in their positions, they must receive a formal sustaining vote of the people over whom they are to preside. (D. & C. 20:60–67; 26:2; 28; 38:34–35;41:9–11; 42:11; 102:9; 124:124–145.)” (Mormon Doctrine, pp. 149–50.)

Once called, the leader is presented before the congregation upon which he is called to preside and his subjects who are the members of the group raised their hands to the square as a solemn manifestation of common consent that they are willing to support and sustain the man or woman whom they have mutual belief as being called of God. Therefore, the accountability of the leader is not to the people but to God who called him.

As in a corporate operation, these church leaders together with the members are called upon to engage, involve and participate in order to attain goals and objectives. They plan, organize and control. They set objectives; they take initiatives and respond to changing situations; they decide and take responsibility for wrong decisions; they persevere; they take positive attitudes and learn from failures; they develop the attitude of positive personal image; they delegate responsibilities; they listen, support and criticize constructively when needed; they undertake prayerful considerations on matters of importance; they persuade, motivate and create enthusiasm among members. All these they do on a part-time basis. In their stewardship accountability they are guided by the principle that, “Men will be held accountable for the things which they have and not for the things they have not. … All the light and intelligence communicated to them from their beneficent creator, whether it is much or little, by the same they in justice will be judged, and … they are required to yield obedience and improve upon that and that only which is given, for man is not to live by bread alone but by every word that proceeds out of the mouth of God.” (Joseph Smith ).

When called upon to lead, these men generally feel that they are inadequate of the responsibilities that they are assigned to do and so become hesitant to respond affirmatively. They understand however that they will be accountable only according to their present capacities and not on the magnitude of their responsibilities. But they know that they are required to obey and improve their capacities as to qualify for the call. They are told, “Wherefore, now let every man learn his duty, and to act in the office in which he is appointed, in all diligence.” (D & C 107:99). They know that this is not their work that they are doing, “It is the Lord’s work, and when [they] are on the Lord’s errand, [they] are entitled to the Lord’s help.” They are reminded, “…that whom the Lord calls, the Lord qualifies.” (Thomas S. Monson). This means that when one is called to be a Bishop in the church, generally he do not have the required knowledge of the many responsibilities attendant to the office. He is required to do his work only according to the limited capacity that he has at the moment. Then he slowly learns his duty precept upon precept, here a little and there a little as he is provided with the needed help to eventually qualify for the weight of his position. Further this is meant that when one is called to be a clerk he must work to become the best clerk that he can be. If he is to be the quorum president he must strive to measure up to the high calling of leading the brethren in the Priesthood. As he follows these admonitions he increased in knowledge and understanding of the nature of the work and improve his capabilities to do and magnify his calling. In the process he encourages engagement, involvement and participation in the achievement of goals and objectives of the ward.

These leaders and workers are not paid for their labors neither are they “compelled in all things,” but they “anxiously engaged in a good cause, and do many things of their own free will, [to] bring to pass much righteousness; for the power is in them wherein they are agents unto themselves.” (see D & C 58:26-28). They are self-motivated in accepting accountabilities. They knew that to be a good leader they should be a good follower and they take initiative to follow the Lord’s example of ‘Servant-Leadership’. They follow the admonition of Hugh B. Brown when he said, “[we] cannot effectively teach [what we do] not profoundly believe. … Our lives and our teachings must not be at variance.” (Eternal Quest, Bookcraft, 1956, pp. 179, 181.) They sit in council together to discuss goals and actions, and to measure accomplishments. They may have different ideas and opinions on matters affecting the organization, but in the end they unite in a common consensus and support and sustain the decision of the presiding authority. Therefore, their mind-sets are focused on a single path towards accomplishment and achievement of goals. They are taught and they learned that “Authoritarian rule is not the proper rule by which to govern Saints, but rather seek to administer in the spirit of humility, wisdom, and goodness, teaching not so much by theory as practice. Though one teach with the eloquence of an angel, yet one’s good practices, good examples, one’s acts, constantly manifesting wholeheartedness for the interests of the people, teach much more eloquently, much more effectually.” (Lorenzo Snow). It is no wonder that they accomplish much and achieve more.

I tried to incorporate some of these principles in my leadership responsibilities in the corporate setting. I found it to be more efficacious considering that I am dealing with men who are qualified and skilled in their respective positions, are working full-time, and are properly paid for the labors they performed. These are integral motivational means upon which the workers are enthused to function and accomplish. My role then was to utilize suggested leadership principles which I deemed preeminent in establishing an atmosphere of common consent. The response was beneficially and positively evident by the fact that for years I had gained a consistent outstanding performance until I retired.

Tuesday, October 7, 2014

HOW MY 1-YEAR OLD GRANDSON LONGS FOR A DAD


by: Norberto Betita

CIAN KENNETH
When our 7th grandchild was born our hearts were filled to overflowing with joy and gladness for having one grandson added into our posterity. His early exposure to adversity even in his early conception makes him unique and uncommon. His enduring character even as a fetus in the confines of his mother’s womb provided us with hopeful assurance that he will be able to go through and stand by the tests of mortality. Several times his conception was threatened for miscarriage, but he held on. He was conceived and born in adversity, but he came out a sturdy 3.5 more kilos boy infant with a glowing manifestation of courage and bravery. He was as if telling us, “I have successfully endured, there is no reason that the family should not. I have fought my battles and ended up victor, I am come to help fight our goliaths and win.” His life had to start with misfortune having been estranged from his biological father even from the time of his conception. The shudders of adversity were right at his naked tender body the very second he was delivered from his mother’s womb.

I have given him the most fitting name CIAN KENNETH, meaning, born of fire (adversity), and royal oath (a covenant son), handsome, and enduring. A combination name of Irish (for Cian), and Gaelic, Scottish, English (for Kenneth) origin.

Despite his earlier encounters with trials without a father in his daily life, he grows healthy and strong. He is now a year and three months old and can utter words as mommy and others. He learned to say daddy from his three-year old cousin Travis. Each time Travis’ father comes home from work he would open the door and cry out with excitement “daddy, daddy, daddy” and Cian Kenneth would follow and with kind of real thrill and eagerness for a father’s presence also cries “daddy, daddy, daddy”. And his uncle would cuddle and huddle him together with his cousin. Such a daily observation of ecstasy and jubilation from my one-year old grandson, hungering and craving for a father’s presence pierced my heart with sadness and sorrow. How I longed that his father grasped the message of an unknown author who said, “A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty.”

His father visits him and his three siblings occasionally. During a recent visit he and his elder brother went with their father. As they returned home his brother cuddled him and as their father left he screamed with penetrating wails which only the hug of his mother mends. I was touched by such a poignant scene consequential of estrangement and disaffection which I never dreamed to happen to my posterity. The awful display of alienation reminded me of the words of William Bennett: “Real fatherhood means love and commitment and sacrifice and a willingness to share responsibility and not walking away from one’s children.” I was prompted to write that perhaps in the years to come he might have something in his personal history that will provide him the courage to move on and to do better than what his early life’s experiences doomed.

I am grateful that two of my married children are living with us in the same roof, although we live as independent families, that there are his uncles who let him feel the love of a father. As a grandfather, I tried and will ever try to be the best substitute but my life is getting shorter as to perhaps see him grow to maturity. While his father provides him and his siblings a monthly sustenance, I have to temporarily perform together with my son and son-in-law the most important work which Ezra Taft Benson declared: “Fatherhood is not a matter of station or wealth. It is a matter of desire, diligence and determination to see one’s family exalted in the celestial kingdom. If that prize is lost, nothing else really matters.” I’m sure Heavenly Father will not forsake my posterity of their need to be exalted if they are worthy. His providence will provide in due time the missing requirements for exaltation---a father.

One night the silence and tranquility of early dawn was broken by the continual cries of Cian Kenneth. Not even her mother could stop him. My wife decided to take him in her arms and brought him into our room. He ceased crying. And as he was laid on our bed he stared at me very sharply. In his eyes I could discern a very deep, all-pervading and inquiring longing for a dad who would have carried his tender body in the grasp of his bare hands in a shared responsibility with his mother to relieve him of childhood anxieties during the weary night. 

We are very sorry that his family was subjected and penetrated by the wiles and deception of the evil one whose wisely designed purpose is to destroy the family. Gone are the happy days of more than twelve years of togetherness, replaced by the shadows of gloom and despair resultant of isolation and alienation. During the early days of quiet separation and parting many tears were shed and weeping a common sight, hearts broken, and feelings erred. Yet forgiveness heals and hopes and faith in the power of the Atonement of the Lord Jesus Christ reverberate into eternity. His elder siblings are already adjusted to their present environment and conditions. Their yearnings of their father’s presence now dwindle and wane. Gone are the excitements of occasional visits. However, to Cian Kenneth from whose birth had never experience a father’s permanent presence, visits only add profound and abiding longing for the presence and love of a Dad.


Wednesday, September 17, 2014

“THE HEAVENS DECLARE THE GLORY OF GOD”

by: Norberto Betita

The alarm rings at exactly 4:15 in the morning. While the comfortable bed seemed to hold my back for added hours of sleep through the weary night, yet the call of duty rings for me to arise and do the cooking. This has been my regular daily routine together with my wife. For so long I believe there is no greater call of duty than those performed within the walls of home and family.


Soon I heard the sweet songs of tiny birds common around our backyard signaling the breaking of dawn. While waiting for the meat to cook, I complemented the time intervals with readings from the Psalms of David in the Holy Bible which was to be our lesson for the coming Sunday school of which I was requested to teach in the absence of our regular teacher.

As the light started to creep and peep by our windows and the night shadows flee, I opened the door and witnessed the morning breaks as the hill-hidden sunlight sneaked from the cloud-covered sky. Then I felt the cold breeze of the southern winds tenderly blowing the leaves of tall trees where tiny birds sing while hovering from one tree to another. The bonsai trees crowding at our backyard again glowed in beauty and splendor. My mind then brought to remembrance the words I had just studied a few minutes earlier: “The heavens declare the glory of God; and the firmament showeth his handy work” (Psalm 19:1).

What gratitude I felt as I went back to my room and offered my regular morning prayer! My heart overflows with thankfulness for the knowledge of the gospel and the testimony of a personal living God who made available on earth all that is needed of mankind. The very tiny new sprouts of green grass; the bloom of wild flowers; the evergreen colors of shrubberies; the hanging aerial roots of newly grown Ficus epiphytes; the tiny flowers and fruits of the bonsai trees which feeds the little birds; the ferns, large and small that grow by their own on crevice of walls and fences, and on trunks of trees; and the tall-leaves-laden matured trees surrounding our neighborhood, make me wonder the beauty of the creation. Many of these plants and trees have grown from the works of nature, a testimony of the truth of God’s unfailing words: “For, consider the lilies of the field, how they grow, they toil not, neither do they spin; and the kingdoms of the world, in all their glory, are not arrayed like one of these. For your Father, who is in heaven, knoweth that you have need of all these things.” (D&C 84: 82-83.)

As the sun rises slowly into the firmament, clouds created silver linings that decorate the azure sky. The glimmering light of day exposed the dazzling view of the horizon and the green landscapes over hills and plains. The glaring and intense heat of the noonday sun scorched and dehydrated my potted bonsai plants and trees with leaves wilted from burning temperature. Yet leaves stood back in beauty and grandeur as water is sprinkled in the late of afternoon. When the sun slowly sets its glory down the hide of the mountain range, reflections of distant skyline turns gold in color of exquisite magnificence. As the remaining golden light turns dark the new moon in the western sky lends its restrained brightness until it follows the sun in its predestined orbit and what is left are the twinkle of billions of stars in heaven’s resplendent glory. This made me marvel and admire as did the Psalmist who declared: “O LORD, how manifold are thy works! In wisdom hast thou made them all: the earth is full of thy riches” (Psalm 104:24).

The words of God to Moses filled my soul with awe and amazement: “…worlds without number have I created; and I also created them for mine own purpose; and by the Son I created them, which is mine Only Begotten.” (Moses 1:33.) “… And were it possible that man could number the particles of the earth, yea, millions of earths like this, it would not be a beginning to the number of thy creations….” (Moses 7:30.)

The physical vision of the stunning beauty of the earth and the marvelous grandeur of heavenly lights, forms and figures established beyond reasonable doubts the majesty and glory of a living personal God.



Thursday, September 11, 2014

CHOSEN OF THE LORD TO PRESIDE AND LEAD


by: Norberto Betita

Left to right-my son-in-law, our branch president, myself and my son
our district president
Living in the third world like the Philippines, where doors of opportunities seem but a few and hard to find, and where salaries could hardly make both ends meet, all eyes are focused on the vast and seemingly innumerable doors of better opportunities and greener pastures in lands faraway. The increasing Filipino diaspora throughout the world is one sad proof of such scarcity of employment prospects. Even those with professional degrees, highly trained and best skilled intelligent workers find it difficult to open bolted doors of opportunities in our own land, and so join the diaspora, resulting to a brain drain.

To the Latter-Day Saints labor pool, the same temptation to leave the family for better and more rewarding employment opportunities abroad is an ever-present concern. Ecclesiastical leaders discouraged priesthood holders to leave families in favor of work abroad. Yet keeping a balance between spiritual and temporal considerations oftentimes moves them off shore. Only a call from God seemed to be one best resistance against the temptation. It is the only real motivation to stay afloat on their little boat of hope while the roaring waves of temporal challenges raged on in the dark and tempestuous seas of life.

My son was preparing himself and viewing a possible prospect abroad. The whole family had applied for a passport in anticipation for a needed movement away from home while under threat of his employer’s operational belt-tightening and possible closure. He was then the Branch President in our unit. All things considered, he thought it proper to favorably respond to his brother-in-law’s invitation to work in the United Arab Emirates than to have his family suffer from destitution and despondency. But before he could leave, he was again chosen of the Lord to preside and lead a church district in our locality. His Priesthood leadership was needed by the Lord and he finds no excuse, complaint or reason for refusal, but accepts the call with full purpose of heart even in apprehension of his personal inadequacies. He left all his temporal concern with faith in the same God who called him to a new priesthood duty.

In my management schooling which earned for me a Master in Business Administration we were taught to motivate people to ENGAGE, INVOLVE, and PARTICIPATE in attaining corporate goals in accordance with corporate mission and vision. True engagement in a work place has always been the corporate plans even now. While in a corporate leadership people do compelling duties by order of authority in return for the value of their salaries, many still do not adhere to the corporate motivational techniques. Costs are therefore added by conducting enhanced training through hired consultants.

In The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints called leaders are volunteers and the local organizations are manned by unpaid workers. This seemed to be a very hard kind of leadership in which you simply convince people to engage in the work according to their personal discretion where the only motivation is the knowledge that the energy, talents and resources invested give meaning to their service commitment and Christian faith. The one single impetus and stimulus is for the leader to be a personal example of a true follower. The prototype of being a faithful disciple with the best intention to help others become faithful followers is the very essence behind church leadership calling. “Like the Savior, leaders seek to minister to individuals and families, both spiritually and temporally. They care about each person, not just about managing an organization. They reach out to…those who may be lonely or in need of comfort.” (www.lds.org.) I tried to apply these simple church leadership principles as an addition to corporate leadership and I found it very effective that for many years I have been a consistent recipient of an outstanding performance.

All righteous and worthy Priesthood holders are candidates to a calling in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. No one applies for a position neither are any Priesthood holder required to submit a resume when called upon to any title of authority in the Church. They are called by inspiration and when calls are extended to any one Priesthood holder, he is bound to accept the voluntary service in accordance with his oath and covenant of the Holy Priesthood, no matter his inadequacies and imperfections. “We believe that a man must be called of God by prophecy and by the laying on of hands by those who are in authority to preach the gospel and administer in the ordinances thereof.” (Articles of Faith 5). A call by prophecy from the one who holds the Priesthood key usually comes in surprise to the one called. Generally only the one who holds the key to extend the call and the one being called knows. The wife only knows as soon as the call is accepted through an interview of support considering the weight of a calling from God that might affect the family.

Such was the case of my son Robert Sherwin. Without any prior premonitions or presentiments, he was chosen of the Lord to preside over a small district of the Church in Surigao City. The call was extended to him by the Mission President of the Philippines Butuan Mission. I am a counselor in the Mission Presidency, but I never know and the whole family knows only during the sustaining of the newly called leadership in a conference on September 7, 2014. There was not even any prior knowledge about the reorganization of the district. Hence the call was totally a surprise. But like Nephi of old he can only say, “I will go and do the things which the Lord hath commanded” (1 Nephi 3:7). He has several prior plans for his family life, but with the new call he has to redirect his goals accordingly. The call to preside and to lead is not an easy one. It requires time and effort. The call of duty and service in God’s Kingdom demands, “…our heart, might, mind and strength… faith, hope, charity, and love with an eye single to the glory of God… virtue, knowledge, temperance, patience, brotherly kindness, godliness, charity, humility, diligence… (D & C 4:2, 5-6).” These attributes and virtues are required because as a Priesthood leader he is to be engaged in a position where all those who work with him are volunteers from all walks of life and different educational levels. It will be a test of no ordinary leadership. He is to lead as a servant and steward.

My son served a two-year full time mission. He also served as Branch President for six years. With these experiences he feels that he is still inadequate as to preside over six operating branches in the district with a total membership of approximately 2,500, plus the fact that he is a career man with corporate supervisory accountability, and a paramount and preeminent responsibility to his family. Yet he knew that ‘when he is in the Lord’s errand, he is entitled to the Lord’s help’. Therefore, he takes to heart the clarion call of President Thomas S. Monson: “reach outward. … Membership in the Church calls for a determination to serve. A position of responsibility may not be of recognized importance, nor may the reward be broadly known. Service, to be acceptable to the Savior, must come from willing minds, ready hands, and pledged hearts.”

God's promised help did manifest. While there was massive retrenchments, he was retained in his position as ISO Internal Auditor and IT supervisor. The company did not close but is now looking forward with anticipation to a full mining operations.

As the presiding authority, he now stands as a watchman upon the towers of Zion, “…to warn the wicked from his wicked way…(see Ezekiel 3:17-19).” His foremost role is to strengthen the district into becoming a stake of Zion by leading the people in righteousness. This is no easy task but with God manifesting Himself to His appointed oracles, nothing is impossible. As in the words of President Thomas S. Monson: “Whatever our calling, regardless of our fears or anxieties, let us pray and then go and do.” (“They Pray and They Go,” Ensign, May 2002, 51.) In such a call from God, there is no better training for a Priesthood leader than to read the handbooks of instructions and be guided by Him through the Holy Ghost---the source of pure intelligence, in the performance of his functions.

As a counselor in the mission presidency I have the opportunity to sit with them in council immediately after the new District Presidency were set apart. My counsel to them as an initial step is to set a goal and make a plan of action. The goals will become the network that will connect efforts towards achievements.

Perhaps there is no greater parental accomplishment than to see our children serve in different capacities in the church. Our goal is to be an eternal family, and for each to be in continued and uninterrupted righteous service in the Church is the best assurance that we can move forward to the attainment of our eternal goals. King Benjamin taught that “when ye are in the service of your fellow beings ye are only in the service of your God” (Mosiah 2:17). Indeed, there is real happiness and joy in touching the lives of people as we are called to serve and to lead. The Lord declared: “Wherefore, be not weary in well-doing, for ye are laying the foundation of a great work. And out of small things proceedeth that which is great. Behold, the Lord requireth the heart and a willing mind; and the willing and obedient shall eat the good of the land of Zion in these last days.” (D & C 64:33-34.) As a father I am truly grateful for my son’s call to preside and lead in the small district of the Church and his ever willing heart and mind to accept the challenge, while temporarily leaving behind his dreams for temporal growth and development for his family. .

Monday, September 8, 2014

WE’RE GRANDPARENTS; DO WASHING DISHES MAKE US LOW?

By: Norberto Betita


It is common in many families that grandparents are to be assisted by children and grandchildren rather than for the elderly to serve them. I am a grandfather and I wash dishes in favour of my grandchildren. Does it made me low? Of course not! Washing dishes is a noble assignment for everybody in the home. Does it matter if the one who does such a house chore is an old grandmother? It does not matter either. It is an even grander and most noble duty for grandparents old as they may be to serve their children and grandchildren while their physical body allows. As in the Chinese proverb: “The old are the precious gem in the center of the household.” As grandparents we may have increasing lines and crinkles in our faces, yet our hearts are never wrinkled. The attributes of kindness, unbounded love, joy of service, faith to endure, and cheerfulness makes ever young our hearts. Ecstatic joy fills our hearts as another grandchild is born, especially when we are told that the child’s countenance reflects our own.

When we are newly married and our children are young we are called by such humble address as father and mother, probably because it is our primary responsibility to care for our children. We also just ordinarily called them son or daughter. When we get a little older and our children are married and have their own children, there is added the adjective ‘grand’ to the word father and so the old man became a grandfather and the old woman grandmother or the two as grandparents. The ordinary calling therefore of the father or mother are magnified by the adjective grand which means among others being outstanding, magnificent, far-reaching, impressive, fantastic, etc., etc. So it is with our children’s children, which we call grandchildren. They are grand because they are part of our outstanding and majestic accomplishment. It has been said that "Children's children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children."

The call of grandparents then requires a luxurious part in their hearts for their grandchildren. So that when they call “grandpa will you please help me with my homework”; “will you please edit my campaign speech for our student government”; “ will you please translate these tagalog words to English”; “can I have one of your plants submitted for my project at school”; “grandma can you wash the dishes, I might be late for school”; the hands of the grandfather and grandmother are ever extended and heart always open as to say, “yes my dear grandchild let me do it for you; I love you.” For these reasons the grandparents are at times misunderstood as being spoilers. However, "Grandparents, like heroes, are as necessary to a child's growth as vitamins." (Joyce Allston).

It is true, we wake up early in the morning to cook food, prepare breakfast and wash the dishes for our grandchildren. We feel it a privilege to be able to show our love for them through our simple acts of service while we are still able. In this way our relationship becomes even strengthened and intensified not only with our grandchildren but their parents as well who are our children. However, these are not permanent things that we do. These and other responsibilities remained to be the principal accountability of the parents. Ours are only piddling extensions when parents are too busy caring for the foremost needs of the family.

In the absence of parents, we conduct family home evenings, family scripture study and family prayers with them. This way we are able to share our feelings, experiences, testimonies, love and faith about the importance of the Gospel in their lives. Geoff Dench was quoted as saying: "Grandparents should play the same role in the family as an elder statesman can in the government of a country. They have the experience and knowledge that comes from surviving a great many years of life's battles and the wisdom, hopefully, to recognise how their grandchildren can benefit from this." Our personal stories of obedience; testimony of the gospel; learning and overcoming mistakes; love for each other; our desires to create a forever family and to reach that goal, can have lasting effects in their lives. I used to write my personal history; about my relationship and everlasting love for my wife, their grandmother; stories of our children and grandchildren; my personal experiences about obedience and many others for our grandchildren to read and have some uplift as they move forward in their mortal journey and for our coming generations. 

The Apostle Paul acknowledged in “remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in [Timothy], which dwelt first in [his] grandmother Lois, and [his] mother Eunice…” then he continued, “and I am persuaded that in thee also.” (2 Timothy 1:5). Likewise, my wife and I are confident that as we continue to share our time assisting in the nurturing of our grandchildren they will one day find the road to righteous adult life.

I am counting the days when my grandchildren will be married and have children of their own, and they would add an even superior adjective ‘great’ to my patriarchal calling. I hope God will add a score to my age that I may have the privilege to hear my posterity utter such an eminent, noble, and exalted words GREAT-GRANDFATHER and GREAT-GRANDMOTHER for my wife with the same opportunity for me to call them GREAT-GRANDCHILDREN. Will it make a difference then if my great-grandchild requests: “Great-grandpa will you please wash the dishes for me?” Yes, it would be such a great privilege!

Friday, September 5, 2014

FROM THE GALL OF BITTERNESS AND THE BONDS OF INEQUITY


by: Norberto Betita

No matter our great desires to live a life of righteousness and shun evil influences that surrounds our circle of life we still stumble into the dark and dreary abode of sin and error. While in mortality we are subject to this condition. Paul made this clear as he wrote to the Romans saying: “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23).” The Apostle John made it even well-defined: “If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we say that we have not sinned, we make him [the Lord] a liar, and his word is not in us (1 John 1: 8, 10).”

As a result of our sinfulness we suffer from the very unpleasant feeling of guilt. Every one of us has at least tasted the pain of conscience which follows our mistakes. Soon enough we are brought to the realization that guilt is harder to bear than physical pain. Many prophets in the scripture described how painful guilt can be. The prophet Alma speaks of it as “gall of bitterness and bonds of inequity…darkest abyss”, and being “racked with eternal torment harrowed up to the greatest degree.” (see Mosiah 27:29). The pain of guilt is compared to the “torment…as a lake of fire and brimstone, whose flames are unquenchable.” (Mosiah 3:27). Brimstone is another term for sulfur. However, we can be redeemed from all our sins. “We believe that through the atonement of Jesus Christ, all mankind maybe saved by obedience to the laws and ordinances of the gospel.” (Articles of Faith 3). The atonement offers redemption from spiritual death and from suffering caused by sin.

Alma expressed his experience after deep and sincere repentance of his sins: “My soul hath been redeemed from the gall of bitterness and bonds of iniquity. I was in the darkest abyss; but now I behold the marvellous light of God. My soul was racked with eternal torment; but I am snatched, and my soul is pained no more (Mosiah 27:29).” So it can be with us. The Atonement of Jesus Christ can be our source of daily power when we are burdened by remorse of conscience because of our sins. 


Am I a disgrace? This is a question once asked by a beloved daughter. I told her in a letter, “You are never a disgrace. We hate the term to describe our dearly beloved children; not even while in a most serious of sins. The same as your siblings, you are, to us, like beams of sunlight shining in the break of day or a shining star in the night sky which once was covered by windswept dark clouds passing by, and eventually cleared to glimmer and shine even brighter at noon of day and at mid of night. Never be bothered by the past, just learn from it. We “all sinned and come short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). Nephi of old, a very righteous prophet even acknowledged his own sinfulness. Said he, “O wretched man that I am, my heart sorroweth because of my flesh. My soul grieveth because of mine inequities. I am encompassed about because of the temptations and the sins, which do so easily, beset me. And, when I desire to rejoice, my heart groaneth because of my sins. Nevertheless, I know in whom I have trusted. He hath filled me with His love even unto the consuming of my flesh” (2 Nephi 4:17-19, 21). The Lord invited us, “Come and let us reason together…though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be white as snow. Though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool” (Isaiah 1:18). What is therefore most important is that after we have stumbled, we arise and change for the better, recharging our light of life to shine even brighter until the perfect day, as you have truly done. You are now advancing with increased faith and hope for the dawning of a brighter day in your life, carry on, carry on. We love you very much. We thank you for the opportunity of having our hands extended in a loving grasp and joyful embrace for you and your beloved family. May you continue to hold fast to the iron rod and press forward with eyes focused towards the Temple and ‘single to the glory of God’." 

At times in the wake of our failures and mistakes, and together with guilt resulting from our sinfulness, we self-judge ourselves and mark our person with descriptions of ignominy and dishonor, which we are not supposed to do. Self-judgment does not in any way correct our errors nor relieves us of our guilt. Our failures and sinfulness are but insignificant parts of our great worth as a person. Through sincere and genuine repentance the guilt can be easily healed through the power of the Atonement. As it was with the prophet Alma, we are healed and freed “from the gall of bitterness and the bonds of inequity (Mosiah 27:29).” And better still as we continue in obedience and faith in the Lord Jesus Christ. Then like Nephi we may say: “Awake, my soul! No longer droop in sin. Rejoice, O my heart, and give place no more for the enemy of my soul.” (2 Nephi 4:28).

Indeed, we can be forgiven, we can be released and liberated from the gall of bitterness and be freed from the bonds of inequity through the redeeming love of Him who atoned for all the sins of the world, even our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Monday, September 1, 2014

ELDER AND SISTER TORIO---OUR GRATITUDE


By: Norberto Betita



We were informed that they will be coming, but were to be a bit delayed for health requirements. Come they did on March 2013 and made the history of being the first couple missionary to have served in the Philippines Butuan Mission. In their missionary bags the carried this beautiful promise declared by Elder Robert D. Hales: “If you are or will soon be the age of a senior missionary, I come to you … to witness of the blessings that can change your life forever. Your Heavenly Father needs you. His work, under the direction of our Savior Jesus Christ, needs what you are uniquely prepared to give. Every missionary experience requires faith, sacrifice, and service, and these are always followed by an outpouring of blessings.”

Elder and sister Torio willingly responded to the prophetic call for couples to serve and left the comfortable confines of home and family. For eighteen months they missed the joy of being with their grandchildren---the little messy kids that added the adjective ‘GRAND’ meaning outstanding, impressive, influential, splendid, magnificent, wonderful, fantastic, to the word parent, giving them the most respectable title of grandparents. They missed the hugs and kisses from children and grandchildren; the company of friends and neighbors; the joyous outings and vacations; the solemnity and tranquility of the home atmosphere. These and all others they willingly sacrificed for such a very important priority which in the end will even increase such missed times with family and friends. 

They sat in a comfortable desk at the mission office. Missed are the casual shirts and dresses that they have to regularly wear each day, changed into the missionary attire of white shirts and formal Sunday’s best dresses. In the seemingly comfortable environment of the mission office and out are regular daily loads of responsibilities to undertake---reports, calls, follow-ups, apartment inspections, driving for General Authorities, family visits and rescue, long hours of travel, speaking in conferences at short notices, and they have all. Yet doing such were never a burden to them. They performed their duties with satisfaction and commitment. They are in the service of God and His children, “… and if they will do this in all lowliness of heart, in meekness and humility, and long-suffering, I, the Lord, give unto them a promise that I will provide for their families; and an effectual door shall be opened for them, from henceforth. (D & C 118:3).

From the Area Office are calls received and demands of reports are passed on to local leaders who themselves are busy with their paternal responsibilities. Then the reply, “Elder we will do it soon.” Never could he pass this same reply to the Area Office but wait. In a week or two or at times even after a month follow-ups are made; the answer improved, “Elder we have the report already submitted to the District President.” But where, and the only thing he can do is smile. 

They travel long hours and mileage for apartment inspections and checks. Young missionaries are caught in surprise and try to hide the messes and clutters, but could find no time to conceal the dirty rest rooms. They would promise to do better and improve their abodes. Words of reproof are expressed “by persuasion, by long suffering, by gentleness and meekness and by love unfeigned.” Then realizing that these young missionaries were victims of their prior circumstances they “show an increase of love toward whom they have reproved.” (see D&C 121:41-43). And, at the end of a day’s travel they hope and pray that these young missionaries will learn even the simple rule of housekeeping.

At times during District Conferences they are called upon to drive for a General Authority who is to preside, when the Mission President have a different assignment. In the course of the conference, they are given short notice to speak and give a brief message. It is one hard thing to do when you are in front of an overflowing congregation and you wanted to share a message that will inspire and edify in so short a time. Sometimes being caught unaware they became dependent from inspiration and so gave the Holy Ghost more work to do. And they were never forsaken. 

At the ward where they are attending they are assigned families to visit and rescue. “Faith, hope, charity and love with an eye single to the glory of God (D&C 4:5)” became their guiding light and shining example as they tried to help reclaim the once burning testimony from the hearts of every hopeful family. Their missionary spirit radiates the home with the joy that the gospel brings. Testimonies were renewed and souls are conveyed back to the ever open fold of God. There is no greater joy and satiating contentment than seeing families come back unto Christ and again partake of the blessed hope for eternal life.

In time they were assigned to stay in the District groomed to become a Stake of Zion. They willingly shared their experiences. They served, they loved, they inspired, they trained, and they did as they are told. They may never be able to witness the dawning of the newborn Stake of Zion in their mission life, yet they are ever filled with the joyful anticipation to see the seeds they have planted to germinate and sprout towards spiritual growth and progress. 
       
Time zooms like a supersonic jet above the sky. As in a trip towards a desired destination, their mission ends and soon they will be honorably released. They eventually will leave the thresholds of the Philippines Butuan Mission back to the ever exciting life with children and grandchildren, and friends. Surely they will miss the thrills and joys of mission life. They will set loose the firm handshakes of people they have worked with in the mission field. Yet they will have their missionary bags overflowing with treasured memories which will last forever. In James Barrie’s words, “God gave us memories, that we may have June roses in the December of our lives.”

Our hearts overspills with overwhelming gratitude as we bid them farewell. We will yearn and hunger for the time and wonderful camaraderie that they have shared with us. But off they have to go. As we wave our hands for goodbyes we need only say, THANK YOU VERY MUCH ELDER AND SISTER TORIO; “GOD BE WITH YOU TILL WE MEET AGAIN.”



Sunday, August 31, 2014

FROM MOTHER TO WIFE---A BIRTHDAY TRIBUTE TO A FRIEND


by: Norberto Betita

She was known to every youth her age as Jingao. She has exceptional talents in dancing, singing, and playing the piano. She is a dance coach. Her brilliance is evident but she remained to be just the humble and simple young woman, standing taller than her height. She declaims and is a good public speaker. She is an upstanding and virtuous youth and a very active youth leader. Her youthful beauty is adorned by that sweetest smile which seemed to remain aglow as a permanent tag of her womanhood. She is a professional teacher. Yet I remembered her best as that diligent and ever determined Seminary and Institute student. She served a full-time mission for a year and a half and she testified that it was one of the most memorable years of her life. Never in my mind as her Branch President that she would chose to be a full-time mother and wife. She is Janely Patiño Rosali Yumul.

But to her motherhood is not a second choice, it is the best and paramount choice. She knew that it is the purest and most realistic responsibility that she is honored to undertake. And to do such was a heavenly privilege. All the messes and multi-tasks that are attendant to her divine duty in nurturing and fostering five children are but flowers that add beauty to the home. As in the words of Victor Hugo, she knew that her “arms are made of tenderness” where her “children sleep soundly in them.” During the infancy and early childhood of her five heavenly trusts, never did she desire a time for her own. All her best times are focused to the care of those tender souls.

Then at dusk and into the nightfall when all the jumbles and muddles are cleared, she shifted her role from mother to wife attending to a tired worker and provider---her husband. She sees to it that he is cheered after a weary work. She makes sure that fondness and affectionate devotion abound in their marital relationship. Then again she gathers the five children “as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings (3 Nephi 10:5)” to sit together for a moment of scripture study and family prayer. Such daily routine built a foundation that strengthens and protects the family from the wiles of the world. They together marched with hopeful assurance of the fulfillment of the sealing promise that they will live together forever as a family.

There is no greater joy for her than to see each of the children grow from infancy to the vulnerability of teenage walking in virtue and righteousness influenced and guided by collective parental hands. Now they shared getting the messes out of their way, yet the responsibility increases as more school assignments and PTA meetings have to be attended to; making sure that the kids find a common interest in education; and teaching each to avoid evil deceptions along their youthful path. The girls are now grown to young womanhood as to be able to handle home chores. She needs no longer to ask for a time of her own. They gave her the freedom to find time for a restful vacation out of the confines of the home. Yet even while in some relaxing moments and peaceful retreat away from everyday humdrums her thoughts reverts to her beloved husband and children. In one moment of void anticipation she might have imagined one of her daughter say: “To describe my mother would be to write about a hurricane in its perfect power, or the climbing, falling colors of a rainbow.” (Maya Angelou).

Eventually maturity follows adolescence; then the words of Oliver Wendell Holmes might ring: “Youth fades; love droops; the leaves of friendship fall…” the anxiety of one day being left alone with her husband looms; yet, “…a mother’s secret hope outlives them all.” Finally, she will miss all those wonderful motherhood experiences and what remains will be her everlasting responsibility as a wife to a beloved husband. Perhaps as she looks forward to the day when her children will be marching out of the home to build their own, she would still be able to unveil the youthful tag of her beauty---that sweetest smile---as she waves goodbye with absolute assurance that she will never be alone for she is a wife eternally bound to a dearest husband in a covenant sealed by the Holy Priesthood between the mirrors of eternity.

However, before her growing children will ultimately leave home to build their own, her most loving husband and parental partner, Gaygay Yumul, whose unbounded love and devotion for her and their children extends into eternity, wanted to leave a lasting legacy in their family life, greatest of which are happy family memories. He afforded the family a trip to the USA to attend the April 2015 General Conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints and visit relatives and friends in different states. He knew that when all other things change, wonderful family memories will forever remain.

Perhaps no greater gift is given that could ever replace the joy and happiness of having a loving, faithful and devoted husband and submissive children working together to form the building blocks of a sacred sanctuary called home. No greater endowment could substitute the sealing promise of the family being together forever in the eternal realms of God.    


Friday, August 29, 2014

ZAINA VIVECA---BEAUTIFUL LIFE

by: Norberto Betita


About 9:00 o’clock in the morning I received a text message from my daughter Kathleen Beth that the level of pain is already increasing. At home with her was only her 4-year old daughter Jeliene Zaffera. 

My wife went to the Temple to attend two sessions from 9:00 AM to 1:00 PM, confident that Kathleen’s husband Jesle could take care of her while on day off. Jesle conveyed Mama to the Temple then proceeded to his office for an examination. The two adults who are supposed to be on guard for Kathleen’s delivery were out.

I immediately texted her to contact her mother-in-law and Jesle as I am sure that she could no longer contact Mama in the Temple. I was kind of worried while at the same time so excited that our eighth grandchild will be born soon. As she continued to send messages to me my concern was heightened. She has been in my prayer at early dawn, but somehow my faith kind of shirks and shrinks because of the underlying situation. Their rented apartment is atop a hill and taxi route is far plus the fact her 4-year old daughter will be a problem than a help. I was relieved when she texted that Jesle was already home. Immediately they went to the maternity clinic. Jesle continued to communicate with me until about past 12:00 noon I finally received a message that Kathleen had already given birth and the infant was in his hand. I was overjoyed and all anxieties and worries vanished. How I wished to enfold and embrace the little child in my arms or give her a hug and a tender kiss. But we are seas and islands apart.

When Kathleen sent me a message with the word “success”, I felt my prayer was heard and answered. Mama was supposed to be with her as an errand, but she was in the temple to fill her spiritual longings assured that Jesle would be there for her in case of emergency. I told Kathleen that while Mama was inside the Temple, the Lord sent guardian angels as her substitute errands, to assist her and those that attend to her. That’s why the delivery had been so easy for her. In so short a time of three hours, the baby was born normally and without any difficulty.

While inside the Temple Mama prayed for Kathleen and for the baby to be delivered that day. She’d been in Cebu City for two weeks. Jesle must have not known that she is going for another session and texted immediately after the 9-11 session was finished because of too much anxiety and fear. So that when Mama completed her session at 1:00 PM, she found her locker with a tag---please off your cellphone. Only then did she realize she forgot the instruction. Her excitement made her ignore her hunger and just immediately rushed to the clinic.

When Kathleen posted the infant’s pictures on Facebook announcing her birth, I immediately searched some names for suggestion. But she informed me that a name was already written for her birth certificate---ZAINA VIVECA. I thought that this must have been just another name found and chosen from the pages of old newspapers and magazines as many Filipino mothers do, even Kathleen. I learned later that Viveca was a random choice of her 4-year old sister Jeliene from Barbie and the Three Musketeers. I checked for a possible meaning at Google. I was thrilled to discover a lovely and delightful meaning. ZAINA is of Arabic Origin meaning “beautiful”. VIVECA is of Teutonic, Scandinavian origin meaning “life”, “alive”. So that ZAINA VIVECA meant BEAUTIFUL LIFE.

In the Chinese culture, Zaina Viveca is destined to have a beautiful life. At birth she has three numbers 8. She was born on the 8th month, on the 28th day and she is our 8th grandchild. “No. 8 has long been regarded as the luckiest number in Chinese culture. With pronunciation of 'Ba' in Chinese, no. 8 sounds similar to the word 'Fa', which means to make a fortune. It contains meanings of prosperity, success and high social status too, so all businessmen favor it very much.” In Biblical Numerology; “The number 8 in the Bible represents a new beginning, meaning a new order or creation, and man's true 'born again' event when he is resurrected from the dead into eternal life. Eight is the number of Jesus, whose name in the Greek adds up to 888. (www.google.com).

However, that is far from our belief. Each of our future is not determined by the lucky numbers neither by destiny. The child’s future will depend on how she would be able to handle the circumstances around her during her growing years. Yet the meaning of her name can be a motivating factor in her eventual journey into the realms of mortality. Should Zaina Viveca in the coming years want to have a beautiful life she will be driven to it by an earnest desire and faith to achieve under the guiding hand of faithful parents.


We are so much grateful to have her in our posterity. She is a wonderful addition to the family. Her worth is priceless. Her presence is an inspiration. She was born at 12:03 PM, August 28, 2014, weighing 3.5 kilograms. ZAINA VIVECA – BEAUTIFUL LIFE, how wonderful is the name; how accurate the meaning; for each spirit child of God that journey from premortality are foreordained for a beautiful life toward exaltation.

She is now celebrating her second birthday. Her second year in mortality is one of joy and happiness, enjoying good health and physical vigor. She is now the subject of a mother's chasing as she starts to run uncontrolled. She had once taken a vacation in his grandparent's nest and enjoyed the crowd of restless cousins. She is loved and caressed by uncles and aunts. She is such a joy to be with even in such a short time of her visit. We love her so much and we are always praying that she will grow up in the nurture and admonition of the Gospel with visions focused on the temple. We always missed her for she lives far away from us. Oh, how we would love to hug her tight on this her birthday, but distance makes it impossible. We can only wish the best of life for her. HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO OUR DEAREST GRANDDAUGHTER ZAINA VIVECA!!!










Monday, August 4, 2014

THE LORD SHALL RECOMPENSE

by: Norberto Betita


He sacrificed his government scholarship (Iskolar ng Bayan) at the University of the Philippines-Diliman and served as an ambassador of Jesus Christ through a 2-year full-time mission in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. After serving his mission he forewent and relinquished his privilege to go back to the same premiere university for the restitution of his scholarship with hopes to finish a degree in Architecture in favor of his younger sisters’ college education. He worked and enrolled in a local college. After earning college units equivalent to 3 years, he gave up the opportunity to finish the remaining 1 year of his nursing course to marry in the Temple to a woman whom he wanted to be a part of his life for time and eternity. He gave priority to provide for his young family and served in different capacities in the Church. To his patriarchal responsibility was added another important priority as he was called and set apart to preside over 300 or more members as Branch President. In his duty as husband, father, and Priesthood leader, he diligently magnified his calling, momentarily forgetting his temporal growth and progress in favor of his family and his service to God and His people.

However, in time most proper, the Lord inspired him to finally go back to college and earn a degree. And, around the environs of family trials and difficulties and insufficiency of job opportunities in the locality, he and his wife made a very crucial and spiritually defining decision. His wife had to work abroad for two years to assist him in their common goal, by the conclusion of which time he will also graduate from college. Farewell was such a painful and throbbing word to a husband, wife and child as they were temporarily parted by divisions of oceans and seas. Each passing day without each other, seemed all the more to extend the time even before it expires. Only the Skype heals the sorrows of being away from dearly cherished loved ones. Through such miraculous technology they hold family home evenings, family scripture studies, and family prayer.

While his wife worked abroad, he earned a meager income through a humble occupation of a cellphone repair man. He served God in all diligence and faith, and he burned his midnight candles in diligent study making sure that his college studies will conclude as planned. Two years run fast and he was conferred a degree in Information Technology (IT). Prior to his graduation he applied for a job in a mining company. He was also offered to teach college in the same school where he graduated. A week after his graduation he was notified to report for work in the mining company. He accepted the IT job over the consistent invitation and offer as college instructor. His wife returned home never again to go back for a job abroad, unless they will have to go as a family.

In one of their dinner together with their department officers and employees, his personal priority and integrity was again tested. He was asked to drink beer and that if he didn’t, he would be laid off. He told his boss straight, “I will tender my resignation tomorrow.”  Just over a year in his career in the mining industry, he was promoted to a regular programmer. And in a matter of two years and four months since his employment, he was recently promoted to the position of Application Supervisor. This career growth is difficult to match in the Philippines, especially in the provincial setting.

Many of his high school contemporaries graduated from college more than thirteen (13) years ago.  Not many had reached the officer’s position in such a short time of two years and four months after graduation, and not many hold such position of authority even at this time. The seemingly lost time of secular opportunities of more than thirteen (13) years, which priority time he gave to his family---the center of the Creator’s plan of happiness; and to the Lord in service to Him and His people, has been restored to him so much faster than expected as a recompense for all the sacrifices that he has done.

The Lord’s reparation has been made in terms of increased intellectual and learning capacities, enlarged ability to deal with different types of people, intensified leadership capability, stepped up knowledge in his field of study, added humility and patience, and better work attitude. Such dominant attributes for growth were developed not in college but through years of service in God’s Kingdom.  In his long postponed race for personal temporal growth and development in favor of God and His work, the Lord now provides him with a magnified and expanded resume---- a key that will open bigger doors of opportunities; a competitive stance which will allow him to stand with bearing in employment contests; a light and lamp that will brighten the path to loftier and grander prospects of tomorrow. Indeed, the Lord recompensed. He promised: "...for them that honour me I will honour,...(1 Samuel 2:30)."