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Saturday, January 24, 2015

TRAILING HER JOURNEY TO ETERNITY

by: Norberto Betita

Karen Myl-the teacher
It was in The Church of Jesus Christ of latter-Day Saints as a young convert that she learned about the great eternal plan of happiness which God designed for His spirit children. She treasured the teachings she learned in the primary. She often boldly testified of the wonderful legacies that her teachers in the primary organization of the church has bestowed upon her childhood life. She loved to share her delightful impressions about her young women experiences. She held dear the wonderful camaraderie she shared with her fellow young women and her young women teachers. She prized the lessons she learned in youth Sunday school classes and in the Seminary more than her secular learning. She understood many of the truths of life while young and with some seed of faith she trailed the path of truth in her journey to eternity even at a young age. 


Notwithstanding the early pressures of youthful life, KAREN MYL REYNA ALINSUNOD did not waiver in her spiritual commitments, but remained an avid advocate of truth and virtue. She lived a life that exemplified a true Latter-Day Saint young woman. Despite earlier family challenges she remained true to the faith and immovable in her convictions to hold on to her eternal journey. While in high school she served as youth Sunday school teacher, then as a new member class teacher, and at the same time served as a branch missionary helping full-time missionaries in finding and inviting people to come unto Christ. She is a defender of truth notwithstanding her yet immature and tender mind. Walking beside her was the mother who gave her earth life and who from infancy had been her guide into the path she faithfully trudged leading to her eternal goals. 

While young with her family
Obtaining the highest education possible was a tradition of her maternal ancestry. Her maternal grandmother was a public school principal. Two of her uncles are lawyers. Her mother earned a degree in teaching and a Master of Education and now served as District Supervisor in a public school. Both her two elder brothers were college graduates. She chose to follow the career path that her grandmother and her mother pursued. Qualifying for a Commission on Higher Education scholarship she then enrolled for a teaching course. She combined her college studies with faithful obedience to God’s laws and service in the church. While in college she was called to serve as Primary President, presiding over the primary organization of the branch, teaching little children the principles of the gospel of Jesus Christ. At the same time, she continued her service as a branch missionary. But despite faithfulness and obedience her collegiate life was never free from challenges. For physical reasons which required her to rest and temporarily stop schooling, she lost her scholarship. However, she never waived her faithful perspective and with able parental assistance she eventually graduated with a degree of Bachelor of Science in Elementary Education, major in Science and Health.

With fellow teachers
Immediately after graduation she took and passed the Licensure Examination for Teachers. She then worked as an elementary teacher in a private school to help finance her planned full-time missionary service which had been a meaningful part of her eternal goals. She received her call and served at the Philippines Bacolod Mission of the church as an emissary of Jesus Christ from June 2004 to December 2005. As a missionary she served with diligence, patience and faith. After her mission she returned home with honor. Her eighteen months missionary service opened for her an even magnified vista and deeper understanding of her eternal journey. It may not have been the best years of her life, but it has taught her great lessons of true discipleship and prepared her for a greater and more challenging voyage to the future. Her first time Temple experience in Manila as a missionary added an intensified focus to stay on course along the narrow road to eternity, with clearer vision for a prospective Temple marriage. She committed herself not to settle for less than to be married in the Holy House of God and create a forever family. 

With her student winning a contest
Back into the world of secular life she started finding new avenues to embark into the field of her chosen career to prepare for another lap of her race through life. A wider door of opportunity was opened for her to work as a public school teacher intriguingly in an area nearest her family home and church. To her contemporaries it was a work of administrative bias, but to her it was God’s timing in response to earnest prayers. Her efficiency and effectiveness as a teacher coupled with diligence in attaining scholastic goals and expectations allowed superiors to see her potentials of quality teaching. As a result she was reassigned and accommodated at the best public elementary school in town---the Surigao City Pilot School.

Still demonstrating and proving her worth as a teacher, she was made coach not only in writing and academic competitions but also in sports contests. Upholding her religious values she taught her pupils the morals of consistent and honest academic efforts over and above scholastic marks. She repeatedly taught her students that honesty and hard work should be paramount and valued on top of their quest for higher grades and honors. Throughout her teaching career she is humbled and honored by the achievements that her students attained through her diligent coaching and tutoring. Her attention was once called because her students refused to accept probable answers to questions in a national evaluation examination, yet she stood with dignity in defense of her students and for the reputation and nobility that she wanted the school to uphold. While she hides from the accolades attendant to her accomplishments, yet her sincere efforts and consistent triumphs and successes in academic competitions with her students flaunts and were publicly unveiled. For such she was recognized by her high school Alma Mater by an invitation to be an honored guest speaker during one of their school year recognition and promotional program. 

As honored guest at her High School Alma Mater
Even during her busiest career life she continued to keep in balance her secular and spiritual realities. While pursuing a Master in Education and teaching pupils in public schools, she was also called again as Primary Organization President to preside over the spiritual education of children in the Church. She was called and voluntarily served as Seminary teacher for high school students and also taught the Missionary Preparation class in the Institute Program of the Church. She served as President of the Young Women Organization which gave her the opportunity to guide young women into the paths of righteousness and virtue. She exemplified to them her love of the gospel and her willingness to serve. In return she was more respected not only by the young women but also by the parents. She had served as District Young Single Adults (YSA) representative and on different occasions served as Branch YSA representative, which calling she currently holds. All these voluntary ecclesiastical service and continued obedience to God’s laws kept her right on track of her eternal perspective. 

With young women at church
However, her dream for an eternal marriage appeared aloof. Her probable future eternal partner seemed ever to be unapproachable. She had been in a relationship once, but the man’s spirituality and commitments did not merit a potential eternal partnership. Many of her fellow teachers and friends were wondering about her remaining single. She has so much of the qualities and experiences that are deserving of any man’s choice of a wife and of a future motherhood. Many thought that she must have been very choosy and highly selective. Her beloved mother had a hard time telling her friends that she never looks at a man’s countenance or economic station, but that she just wanted to uphold the standard she hold dear as a church member. Yet she never lost hope. She has the faith that God will never forsake her. She believes that she had done what is expected of her to qualify for such a blessing, but if Heavenly Father wills that she would have to remain single in mortality then let it be. She is willing to wait for God’s timing even if it would mean hanging on until the millennium. She trusted in God’s promise: “… I, the Lord, am merciful and gracious unto those who fear me, and delight to honor those who serve me in righteousness and in truth unto the end. Great shall be their reward and eternal shall be their glory” (Doctrine and Covenants 76:5-6).

With  husband-to-be Joshua Hammond
While she best understood that God has His own reason for delaying or postponing the desired blessings, she believes though that “faith without works is dead.” She needed to postpone her quest for a master’s degree in education to give way for her most cherished spiritual interest---temple marriage. She really wanted to prove God that she has every desire and ever willing to build a family of her own while in mortality, but still it should be in partnership of a worthy man. She thought that if she could not find a covenant man in her own land, then she might as well seek him in a foreign country. She was inspired by the story of Isaac and Rebekah.

Consequently, as an exact opposite to the most popular love story of Isaac and Rebekah in the Old Testament, Karen Myl did not wait for the supposed servants of Isaac’s father Abraham to come. Equipped with the miracle of modern technology she opened an account in the LDS Planet to find her Isaac. She did found the worthy man in the person of Joshua Hammond, who perhaps like Isaac earnestly desired for a worthy woman to wife. Joshua did not also wait for the imaginary servants of father Abraham to go far and find the woman for him, but instead posted his name in the same LDS planet hoping and earnestly praying that his Rebekah will find him. 

With Joshua at Cebu Philippines Temple
As their personal prayers spanned and meet at the crossroads of the realms of heaven, as did the petitions of Rebekah and Isaac, in answer, God connected the link of their common feelings notwithstanding the divides and distances of oceans and seas, continents and mountains, rivers and lakes, like Rebekah’s Mesopotamia and Isaac’s Canaan. Contrary to Isaac’s waiting for Rebekah from the land of Mesopotamia to the fields of Canaan, Joshua instead traveled far from the land of milk and honey to the pearl of the orient seas, and right at the door of the Cebu Philippines Temple kneeled before the waiting Karen Myl and uttered the most awaited four word phrase: “Will you marry me?” To which like Rebekah’s excitement over Isaac, Karen Myl answered Joshua with a resounding “yes.” 

Her family
Karen Myl and Joshua both trusted the Lord and they will soon be joined together in the Billing Montana Temple as husband and wife for time and all eternity. They both knew that the covenant they will be undertaking as they kneel before the holy altar between the mirrors of eternity at the Holy House of God will be a reminder that married life is not all calm, there will be winds and storms; it is not all sunshine, there will be shadows and rains; it is not all abundance, there will be times of deprivations; it is not all joy, there will come sorrows. Yet they understood that along the path of the storm tossed seas of life and down the valley of depressions and despairs there beckon the Lord’s lighthouse to guide the path of the faithful travelers. They believed as did Democritus that, “Happiness resides not in possessions and not in gold; the feeling of happiness dwells in the soul."

ITFF Coaching Training
With friends at church
The path that Karen Myl plods still requires a long story to tell. Her upcoming temple marriage will be just a beginning of another long chapter of her life’s chronicle. The subsequent episodes of her personal narrative will be enhanced as she begins to walk together side by side with Joshua while trailing her journey to eternity. Her personal history will be a treasure for her family and forthcoming posterity.

Friday, January 23, 2015

SHE'S THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO ME IN 41 YEARS AND EVER WILL BE

by: Norberto Betita


The alarm rings. I picked up the cellphone and shut the buzzer. I heard my wife asked whether I or she will have to do the cooking. I told her I will do the preparations for our breakfast. Then in tones so sweet to the ears she repeatedly said I love you. I also kept repeating the words. When I was about to wake up, I realized it was our 41st wedding anniversary. I hugged her tightly and told her I’m so sorry for almost forgetting this most memorable and important day, and told her I loved her very much.

Forty one years ago, on January 23, 1974, we were married in a very simple wedding ceremony solemnized at the living room in the home of our town Municipal Mayor followed by a very modest reception of scanty meals at the abode of my parents. Ever since, I had always felt in my heart that my dearest wife Letty was and is the best thing that ever happened to me during those 41 years and ever will be. Of course I treasured those moments when each of our children and our grandchildren, and our foster daughters came into our lives. The joy and gladness that they bring into the family are immeasurable and are deeply kept in the innermost chamber of our hearts. Yet when I contemplate on the incalculable sacrifices which my dearest Letty had to give for all of them and myself included, and the boundless love that she constantly shared and allowed us to feel, I could not help but be encompassed by those undying fondness and devoted affection.

All that she was, all that she is, and all that she will be remains and will ever remain to be the finest cream that glaze and adorn my mortal life. Her eternal love provides strength that lingers to hold the bonds of our marital journey onward to eternity. Her perpetual commitment and chronic enthusiasm to perform her maternal and spousal duty even to the extended family branch is for me an ever powerful tug that holds our family and posterity together in accord with the sealing covenants and promises we received in the Temple. The overpowering faith and defeating humility that she holds dear in life defy every temptation that attempts to dismantle loyalties and disintegrate devotions. Her meekness in adversities and trials is an inspiration which at all times whacks our weary hearts. 

She’s not getting any younger, but her inner beauty that endured imperceptibly through her ageing years dispels the unlikely expressions of her seniority. To me she looks infinitely beautiful even with the facial lines which symbolizes countless hours of marital and family struggles and sacrifices, and service to God and His kingdom. The beauty that emanates from the wonders of eternity and walks from premortality through the veil onwards to her journey to exaltation is still aglow and will stay constant before my very eyes even until the time when tomorrow no longer comes.

How I wish that I should have given her a trickle of queenly comforts and some flood of luxury through those long and weary years of our marital relationship, but providence provides no opportunity despite hard work and immense striving. Gratitude ever fills my heart for the patience and ever determined soul that she has as to endure the rigors of mortality in the midst of scarcities and failings. Her indomitable desire to brave the incomprehensible journey to the shores of exaltation presents an encouraging assurance and positive confidence that this life will ultimately lead us to eternity together with our posterity. 

Each morning as our hands clasped together in daily prayer to the Almighty I always have the warmest feeling of love that ever comes from her heart to mine. As we celebrate our wedding anniversary today I still have the comfortable sensation that resides deep in my heart from the time we make our marital vows that indeed even now, she’s the best thing that ever happened to me in 41 years and ever will be until our mortality ends and still beyond the wonders of eternity. Our celebration remains to be just as it was when we have scanty meals for our wedding reception. However, I am most grateful to Heavenly Father since then and always for assigning to me His marvelous spirit daughter Letty to join with me down the pathway from premortality to exaltation.

Thursday, January 8, 2015

ANGELICA: THE JOYS AND MARVELS OF FOSTERING CHILDREN

(Updated Sunday, January 8, 2017)

by: Norberto Betita

Angelica
When my wife became barren by age, God sent for us another trust to care for His spirit child, an angel that came surprisingly at a time when our fifth child and last born was already past eight years old and my wife was aged 49. We have passed the time of waking in the middle of the night changing infant diapers and preparing milk for feeding. Then one day in May 1999 my wife’s niece Annabelle, who once lived with us as a foster daughter, came with an infant of five months---a daughter of another niece. We were informed that her mother was very sick and the family was experiencing a very distressing circumstance. But the child was found to be in good condition. She was the fifth child and was conceived while her mother was long since suffering from an enlargement of the thyroid gland. We were informed that she was named and registered as ANGELICA ORQUIA ORILLAN. By blood the infant was a first degree grandniece of my wife.

While at home with her aunt we supported the infant with her needs. We bought all that is necessary to make her more comfortable. Our children enjoyed her presence. We were all the while thinking that she will be brought back by her aunt to her biological family or to carry with her to Manila where she permanently resides. Then in a week’s time her aunt clandestinely departed leaving behind the child for us to care for. My wife Letty was first enraged at the irresponsible act of her niece, but she was subdued by the realization that before us was a spirit child of God, and she could not do otherwise than to again return to the role of mothering an infant. At night we shared responsibilities of caring for the little child. After a time Letty planned to return the child to her biological parents. It was very difficult for her to care for the child considering that she was a working mother. She thought that perhaps the mother had already recovered from her afflictions. However, considering our knowledge of the family’s difficult situation, I thought otherwise and instead proposed to let the child stay with us. We hired a nanny to care for her during the day while the children were at school and we were at work.

With cousins and the writer
While at times we would communicate with her parents to get the child back if they wanted to, yet they were hesitant perhaps knowing that the child is in good hands. We had been previously fostering two sisters from the child’s maternal family. The first was her twelve year old aunt Rebecca whom we take home immediately after their mother, my wife’s elder sister died of cancer. We cared for her until she graduated from college and served a full-time mission in the Church. She is now a public school teacher and had her own family. Such was to us an accomplishment and a joy beyond measure. The other sister Annabelle also came to us when she was to enter high school. We have plans to send her through college while our own children were still young. But immediately after her high school graduation she instead left for Manila. She was the aunt who left Angelica to us.

In time we intended to file a legal adoption for Angelica. However, when I consulted with a friend who is in-charge for adoption I was informed that it would be difficult for us to qualify because our combined income is small as to merit adding an adopted child to our already large family of five children. Hence, she remained with us as a foster daughter. As she grows older she was ever yearning to be sealed to us as a permanent part of the family for she felt that she really is no different from being a real daughter to us and a true sibling to her foster brother and sisters.

Her Young Womanhood Recognition certificate,
Medallion and chain
Except for conception and child delivery we gave her the experience equal to the way we cared for our own children. As an infant she slept with us at night and we gave her the same love and affection she deserved as a child of God. To all our children she is tenderly and most lovingly considered as their own younger sister. They were all concerned of her welfare and her future. The whole family was truly joyful of her presence. She was a miracle for adding joy and gladness in the family. But like our children, she has her own weaknesses and frailties, yet she is such an obedient child.

She might not have gotten honors at school but I trust that her grade point average of 1.7 (87%) for the first semester of her second year in college was deserving of her honest efforts. She has talents that project a brighter future should she endeavor to honestly work to attain her spiritual and secular goals. As a young woman she is trying her best to be at par with the standards of the church. She is apt at attending church activities. She tried to be qualified for a Young Womanhood Recognition. And she did. She is a good student of the gospel and I found her to have deeper understanding of the scriptures. She has the ability to expound scriptural passages and gospel doctrines. She has been a good student of the Seminary.

With the foster family
Born on January 8, 1999, today is her eighteenth birthday. We may not be able to afford a beautiful debut gown and sumptous celebration for this eventful transition from her youth to an acceptable legal age, but she knows that more than anything else family love and affection is always the best menu that can be served on the celebration table.

She is now in her second year of college. She graduated from the Seminary and is presently in the second year of the Institute program, As a second generation foster daughter we expect her to attain success. As a family we are bound to support her in her journey to the future until she finds the road to victory. She still has a long way to go but with consistency of purpose and with loyalty and total devotion to God we feel confident that she will be able to attain her desired success. Her eighteen years stay with us and our prior experiences of raising and nurturing her two aunts allowed us to really feel the joy and marvel of fostering children.

As she celebrates her birthday today, we express our love and gratitude for having her as part of our family life with hopes and prayers that she will continually be loyal to her commitments, covenants and promises to do good always and to live a life of righteousness.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANGELICA WITH BEST WISHES FOR AN UP-AND-COMING FUTURE! WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH!